I noticed that on this site lately a lot of new members arrived. Now I think I have an idea of what the difficulties can be in this stage of lucid dreaming. This can depend on a lot things and I hope that I can cover some of these aspects.
Sometimes when I wake up and I didn’t remember a single dream but just tiny fragments. I slack off and don’t write them down in my dream journal. This might be one of my worst mistakes I made. When you write down these fragments slowly the dream will develop and you will remember a lot more of your dream than you noticed upon awakening. It’s very important that when you wake up, you have a notebook and a pen in your hand so you can write down everything that pops up in your head. Proper dream recall makes the lucid dreaming quest a lot easier. A lot of times I had the wrong mindset in the morning and I thought that if I would remember a few dreams in the morning that that was exercise enough. That is wrong, write it down, if you have time or if you don’t. There are alternatives for journalling your dreams but a notebook is the most preferable. Notebooks are the most preferable because you can make them very personal and that is a good thing. Write down every single thing. It probably takes some time but it certainly will pay off.
When I get the question: “What do you want to do when you become lucid?” I immediately have a list of things in my head. Flying, talking to my unconscious, asking my dream to do something that will impress me, fighting superhumans, and so on. It is really good if you have such a list in your head. It helps you to focus, reset your attention and become motivated. Don’t make to big goals such as: I want to stretch the length of my dream for 2 hours! That might just be a little ambitious. So goals are important too, it isn’t too good if you don’t have a list but you can make one.
There are a few problems with people that become lucid for the first time. They get too excited and lose lucidity.
It is very normal to get very excited and I think everyone encountered it. The first time I got lucid I got very excited and I knew that was a bad thing so I tried to calm myself. I became a little calm but I still lost lucidity after 20 seconds. There are a few things that you can do to keep calm and prolong lucidity. Rubbing your hand is such a thing, this works because you test your senses. Spinning around also seems to work, you spin into another dream scene and this is positive for the lucidity. Screaming in the air: Increase lucidity! Works for some people.
Some people also fear sleep paralysis and this wonders me. It isn’t necessarily scary. If you presume it to be scary it most likely is scary. It is just like a horror story, you can fully believe it or you can tell yourself that it can’t be true. If you confront sleep paralysis without fear it isn’t always scary. You have to know that sleep paralysis is a phenomenon that happens every night. The only difference is that when you try to WILD you consciously go through it.
I hope I helped some of the new members and I wish you good luck!