Lucid Sex, has anyone done it?

[Rik]

In general I don't control DCs. I talk with them and then convince them to do what I want. Last night in my LD (the 20'th this year, so I'll be an oneironaut soon) I had to convince a girl first before she would have a conversation with me. I told her it was a dream anyway and that seemed to help. Only she didn't seem to grasp the fact that she was only a DC.
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[jrel]

I gotta say, I'm new here, but this is so cool being able to talk to others about these things. I had to search around these forums to figure out what a DC is. But I guess I have more experience in these areas than I thought because I can totally add to this.

On topic, yes, I've had lucid sex. To the point where in my dream I wonder if I'm just rubbing against the sheets to simulate the sensation. I compare the actual dreamlike sensation to my memory of what it feels like to rub against the bed, and the conclusion I make in my dream is that I am not. I mean, perhaps I am, but the sensation is not the same. It is more similar to actual sex and can't be simply described as a rubbing sensation. This makes me think it is imagined, not simulatted. If that makes sense.

Also, someone in this thread mentioned that she couldn't always get the DC to want to share the experience of sex. I have spent many dreams trying to convince DC's that they are in a dream, but I have also had the ability to control the DC's in my dream. And by control them, I mean, I sort of make them extenstions of my self. If I want sex from a girl (who I may know in real-life doesn't care for me sexually) I 'convince' her that she does. "I want you, to want me" is what I will on the dream. And not just in a way that she allows the sex to happen, but in a way that she fiercly desires it. Grab me - look me in the eyes - kinda sex.

It's more than just awesome. And yes it is possible.
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[forevernade]

I find lucid sex needs to be much like meditation! Stay calm, create a nice headscape and do not lust. Appreciate the dc as much as you think about your awareness and your lucid-physical feelings. If you lust to much you will become excited and that is what wakes you up. When I first started lucid sex I would wake almost instantly. You may also find you get physical pleasure from foreplay, or giving the dc pleasure (nothing to do with yourself, really), this is usually why it is good to skip foreplay.

I have had very long and intense sex that felt like it lasted a good 20 minutes, I would have to back off every 15-20 seconds, do some quick lucidity techniques without breaking contact with her, in between 'moments' of sexuality, control my orgasm before going re-initiating.

I need to warn you though, do not become trapped practising lucid sex too often otherwise it will consume you with obsession and you will lose control of yourself despite your lucidity. After a while it feels like a waste of time and you want to go back to performing lucid magic, having conversations with spirits and exploring the dreamscape. If you are consumed by your sex addiction you do not get to experience any of this, and I went through a period where I was stuck like this for a long time, and I would wake up disappointed with myself every time.

[alppdcjr12]

I've had sex in lucid dreams a lot--not as much anymore. It used to destroy my lucidity and wake me up if I wasn't very careful. I've found that if I go a long time refraining from pleasure, then not only will it be easier to have lucid sex dreams that are more stable and pleasurable, but they will happen to me without my trying. I'm not on this mission at the moment, but I have in the past when I was single I refrained from masturbating long enough that my dream mind couldn't help itself, and sexual encounters became a dream sign. Of course, if you want to have real life sex this strategy becomes more difficult to pull off. >.<
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